Suddenly Sex Confessions

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

My partner is being an ass the past couple of days. Part of it is because he's been hurting physically lately and that makes him moody, and part of it is because he's in one of his 'push me away' moods. He does this every now and then and then he gets over it again and starts pulling me back. It makes me crazy but it'll be fine in a few days. I'm just aggravated with him at the moment. He's a dink.

randle · Joined: 13 Mar 2007 Posts: 538

lol, my boyfriend does this anfd it makes me so mad. I want to beat his azz sometimes but i love him. I guess he is just as moody as I am. I want for him to talk to me but he isn't that type.

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

Same with R. He keeps a lot to himself and won't talk about stuff unless I ask, and sometimes not even then. I know he has a lot on his mind right now, including some pretty serious health issues, and I think that's part of it. I might need to sit him down and talk and reassure him that I'm not running out on him if he loses his foot, (he has a nasty thing going on with a toe, and he's diabetic, so it's not out of the picture that amputation might be on the menu), or if something worse happens. No wonder he's moody. And they buried his nephew's ashes yesterday.

He's coming in for a therapeutic massage on Monday. I'll try to get him to talk then.

myca · Joined: 11 Sep 2006 Posts: 1150

Oh! That's a little bit terrible. I haven't seen my man acting like that. If ever he has a problem, he talked to me and we both solved it. I guess you man lack sex. What do you think?

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

My partner is the kind of man to keep a lot of his problems to himself. He doesn't reach out to other people very easily, but if I ask, he'll tell me. He's supposed to be coming out this morning for his massage and I'll see if he'll open up some. He's done this push away thing before, and when I've gotten to the point of walking out of our friendship altogether, he goes the other way and starts pulling me back. He has some insecurities and stuff he really needs to face instead of denying.

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

So he comes over yesterday because I told him I would give him a massage because he's been very sore and achy lately, and his foot and leg were kind of swollen, and the next thing, Mr. "I'veBeenPushingYouAway" suddenly was all huggy and sexy and cuddly and we ended up having sex in my office, making a nest of blankets on the floor. And now he's fine again, with the way he's treating me. He's crazy.

randle · Joined: 13 Mar 2007 Posts: 538

Thats the same bullshyt my boyfriend has been doing but see I told him that I want to be friends for a while Every time you decide to walk away or let go, thats when they want to treat you like you were begging them to do so in the first place. It hurts to be pushed away, I don't understand why people do that when you are in a relationship , sharing your life.

myca · Joined: 11 Sep 2006 Posts: 1150

I'll never allow my man to do the same thing to me. Do you think the attitude of your man changes because he's no longer inlove with you? I really hate a moody man.

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

No, it has nothing to do with his feelings for me, and everything to do with other stuff going on in his head. I don't think he even realizes he's pushing me away. And probably his insecurities. He's a boob, but he's a good man and I'm not quite ready to push him down the well and leave him there. Yet. LOL.

randle · Joined: 13 Mar 2007 Posts: 538

lol, i feel you I get like that as well. I watn to keep trying but it gets to the point where you really don't want to continue to be hurt for whatever reason.

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

He came over last night for supper and to watch a movie and then we went into my office so I could rub his legs (he's been having pains and problems) and we ended up on blankets on the floor having a really great time, sexually and afterwards. It was so nice, and we teased each other a little bit pretending it was a big chore to get naked together, and we talked about all kinds of things, including going to a sex toy store some day to pick out new toys. It was a perfect evening.

My kids were here, and my son's friend, and my granddaughter, and everyone likes R. He was keeping me company in the kitchen until my granddaughter called him to come play with her in the living room. It's a good man who will go watch a 4 year old show her toys and things. Yeh, I think he's worth the aggravation.