Suddenly Sex Confessions

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

I think someone must have caught me very young and told me not to touch my naughty bits because I remember masturbating (not knowing that's what I was doing, or what an orgasm was, only that it all felt good) by squeezing my thighs together and rubbing the tops of them back and forth when I was maybe 9. I understand early masturbation and sexual awareness is common in children who were molested, and I was. I have since recovered, thank you very much.

randle · Joined: 13 Mar 2007 Posts: 538

Well that is good that you have recovered from that. So how do you feel about sex now. So you enjoy it or is it something that you could do without.

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

Both. I enjoy it very much when I can get it from my partner, and I enjoy masturbating, but when he and I stopped having sex as part of our relationship, I didn't go after anyone else and relied on masturbation for like three and a half years. I just didn't want to be with anyone else.

myca · Joined: 11 Sep 2006 Posts: 1150

Masturbation is really a great help especially if you're man is hundred miles away from you. I'm proud of you QL because you really stick to one man.

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

Thanks, Myca. There's something about him that makes me more faithful than my husband did. We both cheated now and then, but this time, I just don't want anyone else.

randle · Joined: 13 Mar 2007 Posts: 538

Quiet so your affair has turned into love?

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

A long time ago, randle. When sex stopped being part of our relationship almost four years ago, we started saying "I love you" to each other. This is usually a phrase that sends him running from a relationship. Sex has been back in for the past few months (about once month, I guess, thanks to our schedules and life and stuff), but we haven't talked about making a commitment or anything. He was seeing someone far away, but I have the feeling that's over again (they have an on-again, off-again relationship that goes back way before I ever met him). And if sex goes away again, we'll still love each other, and still be there for each other. Even though I want to smack him some days.

randle · Joined: 13 Mar 2007 Posts: 538

ummm wow maybe some things are meant to be. I can't believe that. So you stop having sex to be faithful to the guy you were having an affair with?

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

We stopped having sex because he fell "in love" with someone and wanted to be faithful to her. That relationship lasted about six months, until she wanted to get married and then he took off. While he was looking around, I didn't bother, because there is no one else around here I'm interested in, and my friendship with him was a better relationship than a romance with someone else. It's hard to explain.

randle · Joined: 13 Mar 2007 Posts: 538

what do you mean by you guys stop having sex. You broke up or you just stop having sex for a while?

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

We stopped being sex partners, but never stopped hanging out together or being friends, and now sex is back in the mix, although we haven't talked about being a couple, per se. Sort of friends with benefits, I guess.

randle · Joined: 13 Mar 2007 Posts: 538

I love those, My boyfriend and I are going through the same motion right now. But the difference is he thinks tha tI'm joking about it hwne I'm not. Im so serious.

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

One of the good things about it is that I know sex can be part or not and it won't affect our friendship, since we already went the 3 1/2 years without sex and stayed as close as we were, and maybe got even closer. I never worry that we'll stop loving each other, because it's not all romance and stars. It runs deeper than that.

randle · Joined: 13 Mar 2007 Posts: 538

Some people aren't cut out to not have sex in a relationship and I guess thats something that needs to be addressed but at the same time. I think that love should over ride sex at any time.

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

I have to say that I do enjoy having both--someone who is great in bed and who loves me the way I am, whether we make a commitment to each other or not.