Suddenly Sex Confessions

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

I have a question for you other ladies, and for the men, too, for that matter. Why don't men listen when you tell them something? Do they not believe you? Or do they just not listen, or understand or care?

Here's what I mean. About a year and a half ago, a man in town was showing some interest (this is the guy in the other post--needy and too high maintenance) so I went over to his place a couple of times to get to know him, help him get ready for a retreat weekend and stuff like that. I told him I don't like flowers--never waste time giving me flowers. So he brought me daffodils.

One night I said I would come over AFTER supper, and when I got there, he had supper waiting. WTF? I'd already eaten. I told him I didn't want a sexual relationship and he tried to make out and put my hand in his crotch. That was pretty much the end of my going over there.

WHY won't men pay attention to what you tell them? He might have had a chance (but maybe not--the hairy earlobes were a BIG turnoff) but how could he expect me to stay with someone who does the things I say not to do?

myca · Joined: 11 Sep 2006 Posts: 1150

I haven't encountered a man with a terrible attitude and behavior. In your situation, that man was doing all the opposite things. The more you hated to have, he gave it to you. Why not try to tell him the opposite one such as you like flowers, sexual relationship and more? I think he intentionally makes you annoyed.

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

No, that's not it. He really thought he was doing the right things and just clueless about the fact that I meant what I said. He keeps trying now and then, but it's not going to get him anywhere with me. He's a nice guy but very needy and therefore high maintenance. Not for me.

randle · Joined: 13 Mar 2007 Posts: 538

Men are hard headed. It just in their nature. There is nothing we can do about that. I try to get my man to listen to me all the time but I have gotten use to it to the point where I give up.

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

Well it seems to me that if you really want a woman in your life, it would pay to NOT drive her away by doing the exact things she told you turned her off. I'm thinking he's going to be alone for a long time.