Suddenly Sex Confessions

matefork2 · Joined: 03 Sep 2006 Posts: 30

I heard some women said that masturbation is better than sex itself. I don't know why they said it, but the women here can perhaps explain it more explicitly. The thing I notice though that women get so embarrass if they only masturbate and not have actual live sex. Anyone gave their piece here?

rattitude · Joined: 28 Aug 2006 Posts: 34

Lets put it this way--it takes the average woman 15-20 minutes to orgasm and the average man 7 minutes. So unless the girl has a very sensitive new age guy (or a sensitve new age clitoris) she probably doesn't off unless she gives herself a bit of a head start.

(Surprisingly few men can even reliably find point to where a clitoris lives).

matefork2 · Joined: 03 Sep 2006 Posts: 30

Strangely though, somebody mentioned that clitoris is actually a very small penis very much like of the men. I just don't have the explanation at the moment. But it seems there is some truth into it.

wlctrent · Joined: 04 Sep 2006 Posts: 15

I'm a woman. Now, with my experience I can tell you that I orgasm much quicker & better stimulating myself because I know how I like it. I know how to move just so right, whereas the man thinks he is doing it right and is not.

I know, tell the man how you like it. I do. But, he still can not measure up to my own hand. Very Happy

rattitude · Joined: 28 Aug 2006 Posts: 34

There is nothing more frustrating that that conversation that goes like: there, no not htere, to the let, yes ,yes YES, no, up a bit... etc

One thing that works well is to use those bibtrators with a squishy ball on the end to you can hit the spot without needing some kind of laser guidance system Wink

myca · Joined: 11 Sep 2006 Posts: 1150

As a women, I prefer to masturbate rather than having sex. Masturbation gives me more addiction in my sexual fantasies. I know what makes me feel great. I know what part tickles me most. And I can decide my own how long to make my sex rituals. Masturbation for me makes me feel that sky is the limit. I enjoyed myself doing it.

Jade · Joined: 19 Sep 2006 Posts: 17

I prefer masturbation than sex, as like people have said here I know what I like and I know what hits the spot.

All though its nice if a man could join in while I'm masturbating, as long as they dont get in the way lol!

the glyphon · Joined: 13 Sep 2006 Posts: 90

I see them as different things. Masturbation is more efficient but sex os more fun. It's like fast food versus going out to a cafe.

bee_lady · Joined: 15 Sep 2006 Posts: 254

I'm not a big fan of masturbation but I do it of course. For me, there's no way I'd prefer it over sexual relations with a real live person.

I have been fortunate in that the majority of my partners have been interested in getting me off as well as themselves. My husband excels at the art of cunnilingus and wouldn't dream of intercourse unless he does me first. Not that I'm selfish in that way, but he knows I'll be much more appreciative after I get mine. Laughing

It's a titillating piece of the whole foreplay experience for us.

paris · Joined: 25 Sep 2006 Posts: 101

I think that pleasuring yourself is so much more better than sex itself. I mean I wish that a man could make me feel the way I made myself feel but I like the direct contact of my finger tocuhing my clitoris. Plus I'm a quicky, I know how I like it. IT seems as if my orgasms are much stronger when I do it.

Ricardo · Joined: 28 Aug 2006 Posts: 656

I was once with a girl who played with herself as I was thrusting from behind. She'd say "Don't stop", then concentrate on rubbing herself.

She'd come and then laugh afterward, as part of the release.

Excuse me, I have to leave the room... Wink

paris · Joined: 25 Sep 2006 Posts: 101

Now that is corny. That i guess for a man would be a turn off because if she laughed after sex I would think she was laughing at my performance.

randle · Joined: 13 Mar 2007 Posts: 538

Im not embarrsed to masturbate i think it has more to do with those women not being open with themselves. I think every woman should masturbate to get to know themselves. You have to learn how to teach a man what you want and YOU have to figure that out yourself.

bwilsonwriter · Joined: 09 Apr 2007 Posts: 61

[quote="matefork2"]Strangely though, somebody mentioned that clitoris is actually a very small penis very much like of the men. I just don't have the explanation at the moment. But it seems there is some truth into it.[/quote]
Yeah that is someone said to me. The weird thing is that I didnt know what a clit was until two years ago and I was over 20!

bwilsonwriter · Joined: 09 Apr 2007 Posts: 61

I prefer the real action over masturbation but however no way I can get real action 24 hours a day and so therefore masturbating is a good subsitute.

randle · Joined: 13 Mar 2007 Posts: 538

i dont know why women say those things. Ok it all depends on what they are recieving in the bedroom. If your man isn't any good in making oyu cum then maybe masturbation is better.

QuietLunatic · Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 455

I agree with randle. Masturbation can be better if your partner is no good. For me, I'd say masturbation and the real thing are about equal, although I do like the snuggling after sex, which you can't do when masturbating.

randle · Joined: 13 Mar 2007 Posts: 538

Lol I snuggle wit my pillow thats about it. I like to cuddle sometimes but if its hot then you can keep the cuddling to yourself.

bwilsonwriter · Joined: 09 Apr 2007 Posts: 61

I really like masturbate i do it all the time.

myca · Joined: 11 Sep 2006 Posts: 1150

I think everybody in this board used to masturbate. Infact, I can play my own clit anywhere and anytime even in the taxi. I masturbated in there without the knowledge of the driver. I'm a woman of lust.

randle · Joined: 13 Mar 2007 Posts: 538

I have done that before I'm so good at it, you wouldn't even know that I Was doing it. If I feel horny then thats what iit is I do, i masturbate. I don't see why you should wait.